Never ever lie!

Something on a different note this time. Taking time off from my tudung business...I just need to vent out a lil bit. A LOT, actually! I usually do that on Facebook. But Facebook does not seem to be a safe spot for venting out anymore. Eyes are watching, ears are listening..people are gossiping! Well, I'm not saying that this is a safe spot either...but I just need a space elsewhere to spill out all thats been bottled up for long.

I read this joke somewhere...and I'd like to share it with those of you who haven't read or heard about it yet. So, fasten your seatbelt...get ready to laugh :)

A man called home to his wife and said, 'Darling , I have been asked to go fishing up with my boss & several of his friends. We'll be gone for a week. This is a good opportunity for me to get that promotion I've been wanting, so could you please pack enough clothes for a week and set out my rod and fishing box, we're leaving from the office & I will swing by the house to pick my things up' 'Oh! Please pack my new blue silk pyjamas. '

The wife thinks this sounds a bit fishy but being the good wife she is, she did exactly what her husband asked.

The following weekend he came home a little tired but otherwise looking good. The wife welcomed him home and asked if he caught many fish?

He said, 'Yes! Lots of salmons, some bluegills, and a few swordfishes. But why didn't you pack my new blue silk pyjamas like I asked you to do?'

You'll love the answer, folks......

The wife replied, 'I did, dear. They're in your fishing box! ... (the 'smart' husband didn't even go fishing in the first place).

LOL! The moral of the story - NEVER EVER LIE TO A WOMAN! We are smarter than you, men!

Ok...this is relative to the story of my life now. I WAS in a 11-months relationship with a BASTARD. Its over...but I still can't get over it. Rene said this to Jerry Maguire : I'm not letting you get rid of me. Yes, I won't! Honestly, I still love him...A LOT! I know all of u are saying that I am STUPID. Yes, you can say that again. Of course I know I deserve someone much better. But until then, I don't think its gonna b easy to just forget about this ASSHOLE. An asshole...yes he is...but, why do I still love him?

Throughout that 11-months relationship, I've been so loving, caring, I loved him with all the love that I had in me. I was always there for him, thru thick & thin. Mind you, financially too! Stupid ainnit? I imagined us growing old together...happily together...with our own family. Hmmm...too much hope, I guess.

But he on the other hand, was not serious. He was actually, practically exercising his manwhore activities...sleeping around non-exclusively that is, if u donno what a manwhore does. I never had a clue about that 'profession' of his until much later. Somehow somewhere along the line, I could sense that he was not being honest about our relationship. I started feeling suspicious when a couple of times we were actually supposed to go out together...and all of a sudden he'll send me a text message to cancel it with reasons that he has some personal problems to deal with. I offered to listen to his problems, but he declined. He said that he will have to handle personal problems like these on his own. Sigh. But I somehow could sense that he was hiding something from me. Well, when u are in a relationship with a person...u can actually sense if the person is telling u the truth or not, what are his actions etc. At least that is the case for me.

Anyway, these hanky panky stuffs have been going on for a while. Me being suspicious...I'll ask him about it...and he somehow will twist and turn the stories around and get himself out of my trap. I will melt...and start trusting him again (tho not 100% anymore).

In January, he went to perform Umrah with his family. He was actually quite reluctant to go. That is wierd, isn't it? Other people would do anything to go to the Holy land. And yet, this asshole who is 100% being sponsored by his mom...does not want to go. Wouldn't that make you wonder why? His reason was that he was not ready. Not ready? Not ready for what? Why would someone contemplate on a golden opportunity which is definitely good for him? Oh well, he still went anyway.

He came back to KL after his 14-days Umrah. A slightly different person. Even worst than he was before Umrah. He started showing his true colours, with no shame anymore. It was like something he is really proud of doing. There were even a couple of times when I called him up early in the morning and he was actually IN BED with another woman (which of course I found out much later). He seems to be enjoying himself with all these heat of the moment activities.

He started giving me cold treatment. Less calls...less outings...not answering my calls at times (which of course will make me question why). I asked him time and time again why these are happening to our relationship. Why has he changed so much? He bluntly said to me that he is still the same person I knew from day one. You think I don't notice any changes? You think I like it that you're behaving that way?

Finally, he told me off. That he's getting married at the end of this year. To his mom's friend's daughter, who is (at that point of time) doing her professional course in Dublin. A future Doctor. Wow! Does she deserve this bastard? Such a pity it is to this innocent 27-year old tudung clad girl who has no idea whatsoever who she's gonna end up spending her life with.

Apparently, the bastard did all that...sleeping around non-exclusively (and telling me about it without any shame) just so that I would get rid of him. Because he is getting married to someone else, and he really didn't know how to break the news to me. Such a 'gentlemen' he is, ey? He didn't wanna be the one to leave me. He wanted me to leave him. He was wrong. I'm NOT that sort of person. It is not easy to let go of the love I have for a person,

I wonder...is the bastard telling me the truth? Is he really getting married to that 27-year old girl? Or he just made up the story, just to get rid of me and continue manwhoring freely. Because, I caught him!

Eventhough we are no longer courting, we did go out a couple of times for casual movie outings. The last one was to watch Ice Age 3, with my son. And I'd be lying if I say I do not have anymore feelings for him. I do...A LOT!

I could sense that he was a little different on that day. Quite reserved. Always meddling with his Blackberry etc. There was also a time when he received a call from this young girl whom I'd prefer to refer to her as AYAM. She IS indeed an AYAM...a 19-year old AYAM. When his phone rang, he quickly grabbed it and walked away...to speak to her privately. Why was that necessary? He surely had something to hide from me. Sure enuf. When I asked him who called...he told me it was that girl. Damn! What have they got planned? Yes, I kinda sensed it..that they have something on the agenda. But, he's not telling me of course. Nevermind, soon I'll find out myself.

Just before I left his car on that day, he told me that I could call or text him anytime. Ok...that sounds like a mild goodbye forever...like we're never gonna meet again. Whateverrrr...

The CIA in me found out that the AYAM will be going to Bali on Wednesday (2 days ago that was) till Sunday. Wow! A college student going to Bali for 5 days on her own? Are u sure??? Let me find out more details. So, on Monday, I text the manwhore asking him when we can watch Public Enemies together. His answer to me was...his wife-to-be will be back for good on Wednesday. Apparently, they're getting engaged on 15th August and the wedding will be in October. Owh, the poor girl is coming back already. Which means, I should forget about movies with him & leave them alone. See..I respect him!

Yesterday, I tried calling him. Just wanted to ask him about his wife-to-be. Plus, I wanted to ask $$$ from him. The amount of money he borrowed from me! The call didn't go thru. A few seconds later, he sent me a text message...asking me to text him instead, coz he's in Singapore and he'll be back on Sunday. Singapore? Are you sure its Singapore...and not Bali? So, I tried to be smart by asking him to bring home for me a Merlion fridge magnet & the LAH t-shirt from Singapore. See if he can get those things from Bali :p

Lesson to learn - Never ever lie. One lie will lead to another...and another...and another. And it'll make your life MISERABLE! I WILL MAKE U MISERABLE! He is really trying to get rid of me. He has tried so hard. But, was it necessary to lie???

He never replied to that text message. Wouldn't that make you suspicious?

The AYAM must be feeling like she's the luckiest girl. Just within 4 months of being in a hot intimate relationship with this manwhore...they've been to Formula 1 Grand Prix, Bangkok, Cherating, Bali and some other well-known hotels in KL. And me? Just to dine in Marche is not always a materialised plan.

I can live this bastard alone. I know I should. I know I shouldn't be torturing myself anymore. To hell with the love I have for him. What is love if it is not being appreciated? I don't need all these crap at this age! Iknow...I am freaking 35!

But, he bloody hell owes me MONEY! Not in the tens...not in the hundreds. And, I want my money back (and I'm humming to Lenka's song - THE SHOW. I want my money back, I want my money back...just enjoy the show. Hehe!) I want to make sure that I get my money back before I leave him, with either love or utter hatred. Is that gonna be possible? Because it seems like we're not meeting anymore. And I'm very sure screaming to him on the phone won't give much of an impact. But still, I want my money back!

What am I to do???