Why Marriage Is Important To The Society

Assalamualaikum everyone.

My last post was about a month ago, when I got to know that my love is leaving me for somebody who seems better for him. Owh well, I'm still not over him. I know it for a fact that he still has feelings for me...because lately he has always attempted to spare time to spend with me. But I've always been giving excuses for it not to happen. Because I know myself. I know I'm not strong enough to face him now.

But somehow I gave in. He called on Tuesday to ask me out for lunch. I didn't have the appetite to eat...so he just came by to my office and sat in front of me the whole time. And true enuf, as soon as I looked into his eyes...I broke down and cried. Owh help me God! Give me strength...I need to move on!

Just a few hours after he left my office, I received a call from his mom. As soon as I heard her voice...I began to cry. Yes, that's how weak I am. Its because, I not only love him...but his WHOLE FAMILY! His mom mentioned that she misses me so much. Owh, God knows how I miss u...all of u! She told me not to 'putuskan silaturrahim'. And that she loves me like a part of her family. Now tell me people, how am I supposed to respond to that. Its heart-wrenching...seriously! And she invited me to attend the wedding. I declined the invitation, but she told me to attend for her sake if not for the bridal couple. I need strength. I need to be strong and not break down on that particular day.

She told me the same thing...that prolly her son is not the best that Allah has planned for me. Or perhaps I'm not good enuf for him?...I don't know...but we're just not meant to be together as a nuclear family. I need to REDHA and open up for better opportunities.

Honestly, I was already giving up on relationships. But what made me change my mind to be more positive is the thought of my son. I shouldn't be selfish. That boy needs a father...because FAMILY literallyderives from Father And Mother ILove You. I think that's ironically cute :D.

I came across a very good article about marriage recently, and I'd like to share it with all of you.


Why Is Marriage Important To Society?

Marriage has been a permanent fixture in Western society for millennia. While the institution of marriage has changed throughout the years, still it is a constant presence in our world. Marriage has been important to society for a variety of reasons.

Many people believe that the so-called “nuclear family,” consisting of a father, a mother, and children, are the basic building blocks of society. It is in the family that children learn to become citizens; it is in the family that children learn about relationships; it is in the family that children learn about what is expected of them in society, how to act and how to be. Central to the nuclear family is the traditional idea of marriage, consisting of one man and one woman in a monogamous and permanent relationship.

No one in the modern age would suggest that a single-parent family is not a family. With a large number of people growing up in single-parent households, it would not be right, fair, or proper to suggest that a one-parent family cannot function and achieve the same things that a two-parent family can. However, studies do suggest that children who are raised with both a mother and a father do have certain circumstantial advantages over children raised in one-parent households.

In earlier times, marriage helped to stabilize the economics of a rural agricultural society. By having one man and one woman together with their children, a regular workforce for the farm was grown at home. In industrial society, this emphasis changed from children who contribute to the family economy to a view in which the family serves as the training ground and shelter for children, preparing them for life in the adult world.

In the modern world, marriage is no longer a situation of bondage or slavery for women, as it was in medieval times. Both men and women benefit financially as well as emotionally and spiritually from the arrangement of marriage. Some studies even suggest a link between better health and marriage. In addition, marriage is an important institution to many religions who, even though marriage is licensed by the state, nevertheless sanction marriages and perform marriage ceremonies.


Having read all of the above, I'd like to seek for your kindness to include me and my wish of a happy ending in your prayers. I would very much appreciate it. Thank you and have a good and blessed 2011. 2010 has been a horrible emotional roller coaster ride for me. I am so praying and looking forward for a blessed and joyful new year.

Wassalam.